Believe me, in no way did I imagine myself 39, divorced, a single mom and dating. This was a detour I didn’t plan for and most certainly wasn’t a road I was looking forward to traveling. When going through such a tramatic experience, it’s so hard to find the good in it. What good could come out of this divorce? In my mind, I’m thinking of all the bad….financial ruin, being alone, dealing with the emotional baggage of my failed marriage, and the list goes on and on. So many times I wanted to stay in bed, cry and hide from the world.
But I have always been a fighter and I realized that if I let this break me, this long difficult struggle I just went through to become “free” and claim my life back would be for nothing. I needed to grow, learn and thrive from this experience to make it worth it. Is it easy…heck no! But was it the right decision…absolutely!
I’ve been off the market for 17 years for crying out loud! The last time I was single I was just a kid!
And anyway, dating in high school and college for me wasn’t really “dating” it was more like hooking up. You know what I mean girlies, right? Back then you would meet boys (I’m not sure I’d call them men) in the dorms, in the school hallways, frat parties, common places we all hung out at as young people….point being, it was very easy to meet someone your age with similar interests and in the same place in life.
So how does one meet someone after divorce? Well, ladies you guessed it, online dating! I can’t freaking believe I even have to consider putting a profile of myself online!
Seemed to me like only creepy people did that or desperate social outcasts….not me! Never in a million years did I think I would be 39 and on an online dating site-gawd! As much as I didn’t want to go this route, I was ready to be with someone again so I felt i really had no choice. I was lonely!